Hi. Happy New Year, again. Yes, My Man and I are back from vacation. The "time-off" was well warranted. Where did we go? What did we do? Well, I'll get to that in a future post. But for now... the question is, "How is Aiden doing?"
The answer is: He's doing pretty well. A lot better. I heard from him the other day. On New Years Day. He's 5 months sober. I'm sooooo proud of him. He's starting 2012 clean and sober. Nothing could make me happier.
How is his now-ex? He's OK. He's coping. He's dealing. He still hangs on... hoping that they might get back together at some point. But who knows. Who knows. Every day, I pray for him. This was very unexpected. It has been an ordeal, terrible, torture on him. But he's OK.
Why do I call him Aiden's "now-ex"? Because a part of me also hopes that they get back together again. A part of me is still in disbelief. That this secret addiction happened, was and actually is. That all this happened -- and changed the trajectory of our lives. I still can't walk by their old place. I get emotional. As if something is terribly wrong with the world. I can't look up at the windows they used to share. When I'd drive by, I always knew when they were home -- because the lights would be on. But now, tenants turn those lights on and off.
Deep down, I know that they/we can't go back to what it used to be. The past will never be. That's history... trapped in memory. And the secret future I wanted... won't be. So, we move on... like a bus... trying to crank it's engine... to move... forward... hopeful for even brighter outcomes.
If you are in a recovery program or are thinking about joining one, know that you are loved and that there is help out there for you :-) Feeling ashamed, is natural, but there is no need to. With help and commitment on your part, you can beat your addiction. In fact, you might wanna checkout The Fix. It's a pretty cool website dedicated to all forms of addiction and recovery. XO.
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